Making a major life change can sometimes feel scary and stressful. But there may be many times in life when changing course is necessary because we have outgrown a job, a relationship, a home; or, something else has prompted a shift.
In this short YouTube video, Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski explains that when challenging, stressful times come along, they can be periods of great growth. He shares an analogy regarding, of all things, lobsters. He explains that as they grow, the rigid shell does not expand with their growing bodies. So, as the pressure builds up within the shell this signals that the now confining container must be discarded. The lobster then goes under a rock to shed the old shell where it can protect itself from predatory fish until a new shell is formed. It’s a very normal process for lobsters and they go through it several times in their lives.
I guess in a way, we are not so different from the lobster, except I don’t think a lobster is afraid of losing it’s limiting, confining shell. We, on the other hand, tend to stay in uncomfortable situations that don’t feel right a bit too long because of fear. Maybe we are afraid of the unknown or possibly of failing because the human circumstances surrounding us seem to be governing and limiting all that we do. Or, maybe we really want to make a needed change but the ways and means of doing so and moving forward aren’t clear, at least not at first. That’s been my experience anyway.